Posted by: Noni | December 1, 2013

Being Alone & Being Lonely – 2 Different Things

In the company of myself.

I spend a lot of time by myself. I get out each  weekday morning for french lessons, but I spend most afternoons and evenings solo, studying, (I’m taking 2 courses online #MOOC) writing, watching movies and drawing or painting. I don’t mind being alone, I’m able to process larger batches of information and accomplish more when I’m alone. I’m easily distracted… I had another point to make but when I started to think about having people over (in my tiny apartment) I got disoriented and forgot… Anyways, back to the topic at hand, I’m not lonely, which is to be sad, as shown here –


I’m comfortably alone. I like it. It’s peaceful and calming. I can process information and organize my thoughts without interruption thus being more productive. When I find a depth of creativity I’m able to maximize my output. Don’t get me wrong, I get lonely at times. I miss my kids and grandkids, my friends around the world and my lover, but… I’m not afraid to spend time by myself. One of the more important lessons I have learned in past:

Being alone makes sharing things even more special. ~ Noni

When we’re constantly surrounded by people we often overlook the value of everyday events. Sharing a meal. Listening to someone. Helping someone accomplish a task. Holding someone’s hand. Teaching someone or learning from them. Human contact is necessary but periods of solitude should be respected for their valor as well.

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person – without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.” ~ OSHO

So don’t worry about me sitting home alone at nights, but that doesn’t mean I’m not receptive your call or invitation… For work or play, I’m ready night or day.

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